Mindfulness Creates a Peaceful Life
I intend for you to see life can be enjoyed even as we experience hard phases and mindfulness is the way to creating PEACE in each moment.
The majority of people on earth desire for the time in their life when everything is easy and is laid out exactly as they dreamed of, ‘the perfect life’. What holds us back from ever experiencing this?
Well, that’s what I am about to uncover. In sharing my own experiences of working towards a peaceful life I’m going to show you the challenges we all face & WHY mindfulness is the practice that we all need. I am going to explain the greatness that can come from mindfulness and how it will affect your life in the best way possible.
I know we are all waiting for the moment in life when the challenges stop popping up, there is nothing left to worry about, our fears are diminished to nothing, and we aren’t striving for the next thing because we have it all. Contentment, success, a peaceful and happy life to be lived right now. We dream of this moment and we aspire to get there because we want to be in control and full of certainty with how our lives will unfold. This is one of the biggest commonalities amongst us as human beings, of course not everyone feels this way, but I believe it is a subconscious (or conscious) driver to create that ‘perfect life’.
What holds us back from ever experiencing this?
US. As individuals.
We hold ourselves back from experiencing that ‘perfect life’ because we have the mindset that it is an outside source we are waiting for to change so we can live this idealized life. Little do we know, we have the ability to live this type of life RIGHT NOW. It might not be ‘perfect’, actually it never will be ‘perfect’, but we can create a life of contentment, success, and happiness and peace RIGHT NOW.
Let’s jump back in time, to four years ago, as I unfold the life I was leading, or more truthfully, the life that was leading me.
As I have experienced in each phase of my life, I’ve had a lot of great things and I would never look back on a particular moment in regret, but I didn’t realize how much my actions, choices and thoughts were holding me back from living that idealized life I was dreaming of. I had dreams, big dreams, for my life and how I wanted to live. Every time I thought of something great that I wanted to do or even a positive habit I wanted to have, I put a timestamp on it. I thought “Oh my gosh, I can’t wait until I can do that, but it doesn’t fit my life right now, so in 2 years time I’ll be able to start working towards it.”
Have you ever had those thoughts? Have you ever thought about your dreams and then told yourself that after a certain amount of time has passed you can start working towards those dreams? Or better yet, after you have a certain amount of money in the bank, then you can make that change that will allow you to live out the dream life.
That’s exactly where I was at in my head.
I had commitments and a lifestyle that “forced” me to live a certain way, so when I thought about my dreams it got me excited for the future, yet I never actually knew when the future would be my present.
Yes, my dreams kept me inspired to keep living because one day I would be able to live them out, yet what I didn’t realize was that I was HOLDING MYSELF BACK from actually being able to move towards those dreams. I put a timestamp on WHEN I could start actively moving towards my dreams rather than choosing to actively work towards them in that moment.
But, that’s not all.
Four years ago I was in the position of constantly running away from my negative emotions. I grew up, like many people, believing that happiness was the goal and anything else was not worthy of my time. Among this belief, was that negative emotions meant you were weak and you should never show other people this weakness. So, I ran. I didn’t give myself time to think about the emotions because they were not worthy of my time.
How did this result?
Well, it meant that I carried more frustration, blame, judgment & guilt with me on a daily basis. I felt guilt towards my personal actions that led to the negative emotions. I felt guilty that I wasn’t happy all the time. I felt guilty that I couldn’t create happiness for myself 100% of the time. I was frustrated at the people in my life that also made me feel those negative emotions. I judged the people around me for not living up to my expectations of how we were supposed to live life. Most importantly, I BLAMED other people and my current situations as to WHY I WASN’T LIVING MY DREAM LIFE.
Blame.
Frustration.
Judgement.
Guilt.
Do you experience these thoughts & feelings?
Where do they pop up most in your life?
How do they affect you on a daily basis?
These were some of the REASONS WHY I couldn’t be content, why I wouldn’t reach success, why I was so far from that peaceful and happy life I desired.
This isn’t to say that my life was NEVER filled with happiness or peace. But, I was in a place where I waited to experience happiness & peace. I had no idea that this was something I could CREATE on a daily basis.
Remember when I said my life was LEADING ME. I sat around waiting for the moments I desired rather than actively creating them myself. Hence, why the negative emotions affected me far greater than I realized they were. The frustration, blame, judgment and guilt were some of the driving forces of my decisions, actions & thoughts without me even realizing.
The last part of my life 4 years ago that TRULY AFFECTED me from ever creating that life I dreamed of was my “busyness”. I kept myself busy JUST TO STAY OUT OF MY MIND’S THOUGHTS. I knew what I was doing was wrong. I knew I was holding myself back from actually living my dreams. I knew I was putting the judgment, blame & frustration on the WRONG people. I knew I was dreaming for my future and yet holding myself back because I wasn’t taking ANY action steps towards those desires.
DEEP DOWN I KNEW ALL OF THIS.
Yet, I didn’t allow myself to think about it, for even a second. I kept myself busy to stay out of those thoughts. Life seemed EASIER if I continued to put my dreams on that outside source I was waiting for to change so I could live that idealized life. Life seemed easier if it was something outside of me that needed to change for me to live my life’s dream.
I didn’t want to think those thoughts because ultimately, I knew that I needed to create change to live the life I desired.
I needed to change my thoughts. I needed to change my actions. I needed to change my life.
But, I was SCARED.
Scared of the unknown. Scared of what people would think of me. Scared of not being able to achieve those dreams. This fear held me in my comfort zone for almost 2 full years.
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Fast forward to today and where I am now.
I am LIVING THE LIFE OF MY DREAMS. My life looks a lot different then what I dreamed of four years ago, but I am happy. I am content. I am filled with peace DAILY. I feel successful on a daily basis.
I am not ‘in control’ of my life because there will always be outside circumstances that I have no control over. Nothing in my life is ‘certain’ because nothing ever will be certain in life.
So, what’s different?
MY MIND. The thoughts I have is what changed my life. The action I take and the intention I have behind each step is what’s changed. The trust I have in myself is what’s changed.
Really, there is so much that has changed since four years ago. I have learned so much and grown with these teachings so I can continue to show up better than the day before. It’s through these lessons and changes that I have made that resulted in my dreams changing too.
Life is always changing around us, but it’s NOT some outside source that needs to change in order for us to live that ‘idealized life’. It is a change WITHIN us that we need to make. It is a choice we need to make. It is an action step we need to take. It is a dream we need to work towards daily.
So, now you might be thinking “how does mindfulness play into this?”
Well, that is one of the changes I made. It is the change that happened WITHIN me in order to create more peace in my daily life. Mindfulness brings us back to the present moment, rather than living for the future or living in the past. Mindfulness is the ability to create the emotions you desire right now.
I desire peace & happiness, so I create the moments that will allow me to experience those emotions on a daily basis. I choose to do something right here and now so I can feel happy and at peace. I am not waiting for some outside source to make me happy, I create a thought within me or I do something that I know will bring me happiness.
I am constantly creating moments each and every day so I can enjoy the life I live RIGHT NOW. I’m not dreaming for the future and waiting for a moment that I can start living it. I am dreaming for the future and taking action steps RIGHT NOW that will lead me to that future dream. I am being mindful by living in the present and creating what I desire.
I mentioned earlier that I cannot control life around me, so I am controlling what I can, which is my thought’s. Before life was leading me, and now I am leading the life I desire. How do I do this? By the thoughts I fill my mind with.
It wasn’t easy to change the way my mind works, but I’m so glad that I made the changes necessary to bring myself to the place I am today. Rather than running from my negative emotions I’m allowing myself to FEEL THEM. By feeling them I can better understand what is leading me to experience these emotions. That’s when I can actively make changes in my life to either not experience the same moment that led to those emotions or to remind myself of the truth that supports me.
Now I know that there will always be difficult moments in life outside of my control AND I have the strength to get through them. I support myself rather than feeling guilt or fear to lead me through the moment. Mindfulness has taught me this.
Ultimately, mindfulness taught me that not every moment of life needs to be go-go-go or even full of thought. “Peace is the feeling of freedom from disturbance”, and mindfulness is the act of stepping away from disturbances and emptying your mind of that ‘hamster-wheel of thoughts’. Mindfulness allows me to come back to a place of peace daily.
All of this to say that the idealized life you are dreaming of IS POSSIBLE and the only way for you to get there is to start making some active changes in your life right now.
You are the only one holding you back from living your dream life.
You are the one with the golden ticket.
You are the one who can create that life you desire.
But, how?
Well, if I’ve learned anything from my experiences it’s that you need to just start. The first step is the scariest, but it’s movement in the right direction. You are only going to create the life of your dreams by moving forward. You are only going to be able to create more peace by making changes right now.
Anyone can do it.
All you need is a desire to live differently.
I also want you to know that YOU DON’T HAVE TO DO IT ALONE.
Making these choices, taking the action steps, it can all seem so much harder when you are on your own. I’ve been there, I’ve done it.
That’s why I am HERE writing to you.
That’s why I am HERE supporting you.
That’s why I am HERE telling you that it is POSSIBLE and I know you can do it.
Need support along the way? Let me help you!
I’m telling you that MINDFULNESS WILL LEAD YOU TO A MORE PEACEFUL LIFE and it all starts with the first step.
Are you ready to take the step, but unsure how, when, where, or even in which direction?
This is where I step in.
I desire to help you take that step and I can help you find the answer to your questions.