The Biggest Block to Trusting in Divine Timing | Messages for the Empath Soul Podcast
Divine Timing is the unfoldment of your life in alignment with destiny and what is of the highest good for all involved.
You become disconnected from Divine Timing when you are gripping onto control, forcing life to go “your way”. Life begins to feel overwhelming and stressful when it feels like things aren't happening the way you want them to. The Universe is wanting to remind you that you are actually not in control the majority of the time.
How can you flow with more ease and grace, peacefully moving through life? Learn to carry more trust in divine timing. But in order to do this you need to first understand what is blocking you from doing so.
In this episode I break down a clear understanding of how your fear is blocking you from trusting in divine timing. The second topic I cover is rejection is redirection and how you can refocus your awareness back onto your true desire.
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Back to the blog - The Biggest Block to Trusting in Divine Timing
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INTRO
Hello and welcome back to another episode of Messages for the Empath Soul. I am so excited to bring forward the topic for today’s episode which is all about Divine Timing, trusting in Divine Timing, but more specifically the biggest block that you experience when it comes to trusting in Divine Timing. Before we jump in, allow me to intro the podcast.
This is your soul journey and I am here channeling messages from the Universe to help guide and support you.
This is Messages for the Empath Soul.
If you’re new here, I’m Sydney a ⅖ generator, with a deep intuitive connection. My mission is to empower as many spiritual empaths in this community, creating a ripple effect of compassion and peace that is felt around the world.
Today we are talking about the Biggest Block to Trusting in Divine Timing. I think I am really excited to bring this topic forward today because I’m talking about this inside my membership, The Soul Care Space. I’m talking all about flowing with Divine Timing and in order to flow we have to know what is stopping the flow. What is stopping the flow is a block you are holding onto, so this is what we are talking about today.
Divine Timing is the unfoldment of your life in alignment with destiny and what is of the highest good for all involved. You become disconnected from Divine Timing when you are gripping onto control, forcing life to go “your way”. Today we are going to talk about the biggest block to trusting in divine timing being your fear. Then we'll talk about rejection as redirection.
THE BIGGEST BLOCK IS FEAR
The biggest block is your fear. No matter what fear you experience in life, whether that be fear of failure, fear of rejection or judgment, fear of the unknown, fear of being out of control. All of the fears are ultimately the same, they are the fear of not being enough. Let’s look a little closer.
Your fear of failure is your inner child saying, “when I fail I feel like I am not enough, so I’m afraid to fail because I’m afraid I’m not enough.” The reality is failure is part of life and it has nothing to do with you being worthy or not. You already are worthy, you are more than enough as you are, but you have tied your worthiness to succeeding and whether you are successful. It’s no wonder you are afraid of failure because you feel like you are not enough unless you succeed.
Divine Timing quite literally says, there is a certain moment that needs to happen in your life and that is when you will feel like you have become successful. Not become successful like this overall arching theme to your life like there is pre-being successful and post-being successful. Success is a feeling, it’s an emotion, it’s not a moment in time.
Divine Timing says that the unfoldment of your life in alignment with destiny, will occur in a specific way at a specific time. In other words, you will reach the feeling of success at a specific moment in a specific way that is aligned with your destiny. You have this fear of failure, and it’s saying “but what if I fail?” The Universe is saying, “you will fail, that is without a doubt, but just because you fail doesn’t mean you won’t ever experience the feeling of success.”
Your fear of failure is not putting yourself out there, not even taking that step forward towards your desires, that fear of failure is blocking you from divine timing. It’s blocking you from trusting in divine timing, when you trust in divine timing it’s you saying, “I know I will succeed, I know I will reach success however it’s meant to happen, whenever it’s meant to happen. I may make mistakes along my journey, yet I know I will succeed in some way or another.” That is you trusting in divine timing, and that is how the fear of failure is blocking you.
Fear of judgment and rejection is you, quite literally telling yourself, “if someone else rejects me or someone else judges me, it's because I’m not enough. I’m afraid of that person rejecting me because it means I am not enough.” You’ve tied your self worth to somebody else’s opinion of you. You are probably a people pleaser. This fear is my fear, so it really rings true for me. The fear of judgment and rejection is you tying your worthiness to someone else’s opinion of you. You are telling yourself, “their opinion of me will determine my worthiness. If they accept me then it means I am worthy. If they validate me then it means I am enough.”
Divine timing is being blocked because I am allowing my fear to control my behaviours and my actions and the way I am moving through life. I cannot trust in divine timing because my fear of rejection is so loud. This rings true for me in a lot of moments of my life, but specifically in the dating world. In dating, talking to people and meeting people and desiring a relationship. I was talking to someone in my past, we were communicating back and forth and it was great and lovely and I felt a connection building. Then the connection ended or fizzled out, and my fear of rejection really started to come up. This fear of rejection started to say, “I need to convince this person that I am worthy. I need to make them see me. I need to make them believe in my worth. So I need to convince them.” How can I convince them? I think this showed up even in the beginning stages of chatting with this person, because now looking back on it I can see how my actions and behaviors were coming from that rooted feeling of not being worthy. So I need to convince them why I am worthy, because I am afraid they are going to judge me or reject me.
In all of this I am blocking my ability to trust in divine timing. If I am in a state of trusting in divine timing then I am in a place of saying, “whoever I am meant to be in a relationship with will pop up on my path in the right way, at the right time, and we will feel a connection with each other. We will communicate divinely, we will be vulnerable, we will share our perspectives, we will enjoy getting to know each other”. Divine timing doesn’t say it’s always going to be easy, divine timing says “the unfoldment of your life is in alignment with destiny”. I am blocking my ability to trust in divine timing when I am allowing my fear to control the way that I am behaving.
In the instance of dating, and this person I was talking to in the past and that connection fizzling out, I then was in a place of believing that I will find no one. My thoughts started to say, “oh man that person didn’t see me as being worthy and that person didn’t want to spend time with me, so now I won’t find anyone. I’m going to be alone forever.” All because my fear of rejection and judgment was triggered because I was placing my worthiness and my enoughness on that person’s opinion of me. So when they walked away and didn’t want me in their life, I started to believe that I am not worthy, because of this, and I forget to trust in divine timing. My fear is blocking me from trusting in divine timing.
This can be seen in your fear of the unknown and your fear of being out of control. A lot of people grip onto control, planning their entire lives, step by step, thinking about all the ways it could go wrong and all the ways it could go right. Although as humans we like to focus on how it can go wrong more often.
Your fear of being out of control is triggering you to grip onto control and to try and plan things, so when it looks like things aren’t going your way it makes you believe that you’re not enough. You are not worthy because you are out of control now.
Do you see what I am getting at? Whatever it is that you fear, rejection or judgment, failure, or being out of control, is you tying your worthiness to the opposite end. If you fear failure, you’ve tied your worthiness to succeeding. If you fear rejection and judgment, you’ve tied your worthiness to being accepted by someone else. If you fear the unknown, you’ve tied your worthiness to what’s known. If you fear being out of control, you’ve tied your worthiness to being in control. All of these things are blocking your ability to trust in divine timing. Divine timing is the unfoldment of your life in alignment with destiny and what is of the highest good for all. You don’t get to pick how it works out.
We are moving through this lifetime with so many surprises on our path that are meant to be exciting. Of course there are going to be surprises that startle us, there will be surprises when things don’t go the way we want them to. But this doesn’t mean that our destiny isn’t unfolding, it only means that your expectations are attached to a specific outcome. I think that is a huge recognition of how our fear is blocking us. You have tied your expectations to a specific outcome, you want something to happen a certain way. Why? Because it allows you to feel in control. You want something to happen a certain way. Why? Because you want to feel successful. You want something to happen in a specific way. Why? Because you desire that feeling of being validated and accepted by somebody else.
Ultimately, you’ve attached feeling worthy to a specific outcome. That is why your expectations are attached to a specific outcome, because you have tied your worthiness to that outcome. Guess what? You’re already worthy as you are. Your worthiness isn’t tied to anything, it’s not conditional. You were worthy the moment you were born. You are worthy throughout your entire life, no matter what decisions you have or have not made, no matter what thoughts you’ve had or have not had, no matter what you have created or not. Every single person is worthy. You are worthy.
Your worthiness is not dependent on anything and it does not change, and yet you believe it is dependent on something. We can go so much deeper into what that means, that is inner child healing and energy healing. There is so much more there, but ultimately the biggest block to trusting in divine timing is your fear and it all comes down to a lack mindset. Your mindset is in a state of lack. You believe that there is not enough to go around, that there are limited resources. That is what is blocking you from being able to trust in divine timing. Your fear, your expectations being attached to a specific outcome, and your mindset being in a state of lack.
Now how do we move forward? How do we come back into trusting in divine timing? How do we recognize “dang, I’m blocking myself”? Well, the number one way to come back into trusting in divine timing is the belief that rejection is redirection.
REJECTION IS REDIRECTION
Rejection or failure does not mean that you are not meant to experience something, it only means you are being redirected on your path. The Universe responds to your action with one of three answers. Whenever you are taking action on something, you are moving towards wanting to be successful, whether it’s a project or a relationship, big or small, no matter what it is, the Universe responds to your action with one of three answers. The first one is “yes” you are successful, “yes the relationship is meant to happen”, “yes, you are meant to complete that task”, the answer is yes.
The second answer is “not right now”. Your failure is not “no”, it’s not that the answer is that it isn’t supposed to happen, it’s just not right now,
The third answer is “I have something better”, that’s what the universe is saying, “I have something better”. When you perceive the answer to be no, it’s actually “not right now” or “I have something better”. That lack mindset is you saying over and over and over again, “aw man, it didn’t happen, now it’s never going to happen”, when really the Universe is saying “it didn’t happen right now because something else is supposed to happen first”; or it’s the universe saying “this didn’t happen because I have something even better planned for you”. Rejection is redirection.
You coming to terms with the fact that something did not work out the way you expected it to is you choosing to recognize “hey this rejection, or this obstacle, does not mean that I am not worthy, it simply means not right now or there is something better in store for me. So how can I shift from this state of feeling lack or feeling resistance. How can I shift back into trusting in divine timing?” There is always going to be a moment where we catch ourselves, a moment of awareness.
Before you become aware you are just in the fear, and you are upset or angry. You are in the fear. The moment you become aware “ohhh this didn’t happen, oh rejection is redirection, oh I’m not trusting in divine timing.” I can remember it now so clearly the moments on my path when either the relationship didn’t happen or the person stopped talking to me. I got caught up in that fear and that attachment to the outcome. Now moving through my life I am quicker to the recognition of “okay, maybe it’s not going to happen the way I thought it was going to happen. Maybe I get to be surprised in a good way. Maybe the Universe is saying not right now, or maybe the universe is saying I have something better”. This rejection does not mean that I am not worthy. I get to come back into accepting my worthiness, I forgot for a moment. I forgot for a moment that I am already worthy.
You get to allow redirection to help you refocus on what you truly desire. What I mean when I say “what you truly desire” is not the relationship, that’s not what I truly desire. I truly desire the emotion behind the experience. It’s not that I desire the relationship, it’s that I desire the feeling of connection with someone, that’s what I desire.
Allowing redirection to help you refocus on what you truly desire is you reeling your expectations back in. Remember, your expectations have become attached to a specific outcome. So in my case in the past, my expectation was “this person, I will date this person, I will be in a relationship with this person”. That was the outcome that I wanted, so my expectation had become attached to it. So all of a sudden when it doesn’t happen my mind tries to tell me that I’m not worthy. My mind becomes obsessed with rejection and judgment, it becomes obsessed with telling me “I’m not worthy and it’s never going to happen”. I have to become aware in that moment “woah, woah, woah, my fear is blocking me from trusting in divine timing. I’ve become disconnected. I am disconnected from my Spirit and I am living in the space of fear.”
I get to remember that the universe is either saying not right now, or there is something even better in store for me. This rejection does not mean that I am not worthy and I get to allow redirection to help me to refocus on what I truly desire. The desire for me is not that specific relationship, it’s not that person, it's the feeling of connection with someone else. That’s what I truly desire. So now that I can refocus on what I truly desire I can open myself up to this happening in divine timing whether it’s with that person or with someone else.
There is so much more openness and trust that can flow from my body, my mind and my being when I can become refocused on what I truly desire and I can remember that the Universe is guiding me on my path.
When you feel like something is not happening on your timeline you need to stop yourself and ask yourself, “ooo, am I not trusting in divine timing right now? Why am I not trusting? I’m blocking myself, I’m blocking my ability to trust in divine timing. Why? Oh I’m in a state of fear. Why? Oh because my expectations are attached to a specific outcome. Why? Oh, because I am in a lack mindset.” Remember, rejection is redirection, the universe either says yes, not right now, or I have something better.
The rejection or obstacle does not mean that you are not worthy. So, it’s time for you to allow redirection to help you refocus on what you truly desire, the emotion behind the experience.
SELF REFLECTION CREATES SOUL CONNECTION
If you don’t know by now, my most favourite thing when it comes to soul connection is self reflection. That is where we are at in today’s episode. Self reflection creates soul connection.
I want you to take this lesson and this perspective that I just shared and apply it to your own life. Because my words mean nothing if you don’t take the time to apply it to your life.
When you can trust in divine timing you are able to live with more presence, enjoying the moment, knowing everything is unfolding for your highest good. But right now you don’t have that trust, so it’s time to shift your perspective through self reflection.
I will say this every single episode, self reflection is a powerful tool that helps you to better understand yourself and strengthen your connection with the Universe. Which is where you build trust and find a way to surrender more easily.
Use these journal prompts to help guide you in building your trust in divine timing. Write these questions down and when you have time journal them out. I strongly encourage you to journal them pen to paper, or I journal them on my computer, so fingertip to key.
It becomes a lot harder to build soul connection if your reflection is just done internally, if it;s just down in the mind. You can really shift your perspective through the act of writing things out because you start to see things differently.
1 - What is the root of my desire?
What is the feeling you want to have? What is the emotion you want to experience when you get that desire? Let’s say your desire is to have $100 million. What do you want to feel? What do you think that $100 million is going to make you feel once you have it?
2 - What is the wound my inner child is holding onto around this fear?
Get clear with yourself, what is your fear? I was quite honest with you today, my fear is the fear of judgment and rejection. Do you have a fear of failure? A fear of being seen? A fear of abandonment? A fear of being out of control? What is the fear that you experience and then go deeper by asking yourself what is the wound your inner child is holding around that fear? This question really asks you to go deep and to be honest with yourself. This is how you create healing, this is how you create shifts.
3 - How would it feel if my desire surprised me and showed up unexpectedly?
Great question to reflect on.
4 - How can I shift my mindset from lack to seeing more abundance in my life?
The beautiful thing with journal prompts is that there is no wrong answer. If you answer these questions today and then again in a year from now you will have different answers because you have a different perspective on life. You’ll understand yourself in a different way. Don;t be afraid to ask yourself these questions. At the beginning if journaling is new to you and self reflection is new to you, your answers might be quite surface level and it might be hard for you to go deep. If you sit and look at that question and you say “I don’t know” that is you choosing to not connect with yourself. You do know, you simply have to create enough space for yourself to listen. It can be hard to admit things to yourself but healing and learning and growth don’t happen if you keep ignoring. So I strongly encourage you to ask yourself the questions.
If you want to learn more about Divine Timing and you want to learn about flowing with Divine Timing, then join my membership, The Soul Care Space. This is one of the topics that we have discussed, numerous times to be honest, it is a topic I love talking about. I want to help you, so if you want to learn more about it and you want to start trusting divine timing in your life more, then check out The Soul Care Space. My membership, the link should be somewhere in the description.
That is all that I have for you in this episode and I really hope you were able to gain something from it. I hope that it has helped you to ponder your own life. If you have any questions please don’t hesitate to reach out to me, I love sharing these messages and perspectives to help you on your journey. It’s wisdom I’ve learned through my own experiences as an empath and I think in here there are some important lessons for you to learn as an empath.
GOODBYE
As I close things out for today I want you to remember, your life is happening right now. There is not some future moment you need to rush forward to. Be here, take a deep breath, know that you are meant to be in this moment.
Life will always bring more lessons.
Your soul will always guide you to more healing.
Your mind will always require support to see from a bigger perspective.
You will always desire to be seen, heard and understood.
Be here now for yourself. In time you will feel the call to share more light and compassion with the world.
I’m Sydney, signing off and saying thank you, thank you, thank you.
Until next time, sending love & light on your spiritual journey,
Sydney Smith
Spiritual Mentor
Founder of Adventuring with Poseidon Wellness
