People Pleaser versus An Empath | Messages for the Empath Soul Podcast
Wearing the badge of a people pleaser is not the honour you want to continue holding onto.
On the other hand, being an empowered empath is the healthier, more peaceful, and more aligned way to live.
On my spiritual healing journey I've discovered the unhealthy attributes of being a people pleaser and how it can affect your self perception and the feeling of not being worthy.
In this podcast episode I dive into three of the life lessons I had to learn in order to shift my behaviour from people pleasing to being an empowered and compassionate empath. Along with detailing these lessons I share certain examples from my own life in how I learned these lessons.
Press play to hear the breakdown of internal validation versus external validation, it's not my job to take care of your emotions, and tuning my energetic frequency rather than tuning your perception of me.
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INTRO
Hello hello hello. Welcome back to another episode of messages for the empath soul. This is the first episode in 2025 and I am excited to continue on this journey of sharing these channeled messages with you in hopes they inspire you, they motivate you or they provide some guidance and direction for your life, your healing journey and connecting deeper to your soul.
Now we are going to get started in this new calendar year with an episode all about one of my favourite topics which is people pleaser versus an empath. I say this is one of my favourite topics and I couple probably say that about most of the topics I am bringing to this podcast and most of the topics I share in my membership community, The Soul Care Space, because really I only talk about things I want to talk about because it’s the wisdom I’ve gained in my own life; the channeled messages that I have downloaded from the universe; and the healing and lessons that I have moved through in my experiences as a people pleaser and an empath.
Today I call myself a recovering people pleaser because I think that those tendencies are a bit like an addiction, in the sense that they become really rooted in our subconscious and it can be challenging to let go of them completely. Especially if it’s taken decades for us to acknowledge that these are habits that we have carried that are so deeply embedded in how we view ourselves. Shifting from a people pleaser to instead being just an empath can take a lot of work, it takes a lot of dedication, it takes a constant remembering and acknowledging. So that term of recovering people pleaser for me personally is a reminder that I can slip back into my old ways easily, so I need to keep up with my daily practices and tools to stay in an aligned state.
Now we are going to get into this a lot deeper in today’s episode, but first let me introduce this space. Maybe you are new here, maybe you’ve just started following along on my journey and you’re just connecting to my content or the content that is being channeled and created through me. I want to share a little bit about what this podcast is actually about, so let me intro it for you.
This is your soul journey and I am here channeling messages from the Universe to help guide and support you.
This is Messages for the Empath Soul.
If you’re new here, I’m Sydney a ⅖ generator, with a deep intuitive connection. My mission is to empower as many spiritual empaths in this community, creating a ripple effect of compassion and peace that is felt around the world.
Now that you have a better understanding of exactly what this podcast is all about, let’s get into this episode specifically being all about people pleasers and empaths. Before I dive right into the topic I want to give you a brief layout about why I am bringing this topic forward today and what specifically I am touching on because I think it can be a very broad topic and there is a lot of different things I can touch on when it comes to people pleasing and being an empath.
First, I want to make it known that people pleasing is not the way to fulfillment, it’s not how you attain a peaceful life and it’s not how you fulfill your soul purpose. You are an empath, you’ve been taught the conditioned behaviour of people pleasing because it served those around you. People pleasing is a behaviour, it’s not who you are and it’s not a title to wear as a people pleaser. I think a lot of us end up wearing it as an identity for a really long period of our life not realizing the impact it has on how you live and who you are.
When you learn to live as a healthy, aligned and peaceful empath, you create relationships with a balance of give and receive; your impact on the world around you as a compassionate leader and supporter is more attainable; and you know how to honour your energy as an empath in the moments where you feel drained and overwhelmed from feeling the energy of the world around you.
Those are some key things to acknowledge that when you are living as a peaceful, aligned and healthy empath you experience relationships and connections that have a beautiful balance of give and receive, serve and receive. A people pleaser or somebody who is living from people pleasing tendencies, you unfortunately do not experience a healthy balance of give and receive in your relationships. More often you are giving and the people that are attracted into your life because of your giving nature are happily taking. The moment you shift your behaviour away from being a people pleaser, those people around you begin to become upset because they no longer are receiving the benefits of your giving nature.
Now, being an empath is not about not giving. You are an empath, you are a sensitive soul, you are an intuitive being, and giving is one of your true natures. But, people pleasing is an unhealthy way of giving. You can give as an empath and have a healthy balance with the people in your life in that give and receive. This is really important to acknowledge.
Your impact on the world around you as a compassionate leader and supporter is more attainable. As an empath, you have a kind and compassionate heart, whether you align more with the term of being a leader or you align more with the term of being a supporter, many different empaths around the world are here to bring in different energies and are here with different purposes. Some of the empaths are great leaders and some of the empaths are great supporters, some can do a mix of both. Maybe you align more with being a compassionate leader or maybe you align more with being a compassionate supporter. Ultimately, whatever it is, your compassion can be shared with those around you and when you are doing it from a healthy, aligned and peaceful place as the empath that you are, it becomes a lot more attainable to share that compassion.
In the ability to recognize you are an empath, it’s about knowing how to honour your energy in the moments where you feel drained or overwhelmed from the energy of the world around you. You are an empath, the definition being you feel and understand the energy and emotions of the people around you. As a people pleaser you are trying to prioritize the people around you and their emotions, but ultimately you can’t control them and we will get into that in a minute.
As an empath, when you are living from a healthy, aligned and peaceful place, you know how to honour your energy. You can recognize “I feel drained”, “I feel overwhelmed”, “I feel anxious”. Sometimes you’ll be able to explain immediately why you feel that way because something has happened in your life. Often as an empath you cannot explain why you feel that heaviness, and it’s most likely because you have taken on the heavy energy of the people around you or the world at large. In order to live as a healthy, aligned and peaceful empath you need to know how to honour your energy in those moments. This is a quick base line of the differences between a people pleaser and an empath, but I want to get a little deeper into it today.
There are 3 different topics I want to touch on today, these are 3 key lessons I had to learn in order to live as a healthy, aligned and peaceful empath. I’m going to share the lesson and then a brief story behind it so you can see an example or how it’s played out in life.
The first lesson is internal validation versus external validation.
The second lesson is taking care of your emotional wellbeing is not my job.
The third lesson is tuning my energetic frequency rather than tuning your perception of me.
Those are the three lessons I had to learn and I am so excited to share them with you today. So let’s jump into lesson number one.
INTERNAL VALIDATION VERSUS EXTERNAL VALIDATION
As a people pleaser you have a fear based perception that is pressuring you to seek external validation. Now you don’t know this consciously, or maybe you do, maybe you are already very aware of your people pleasing tendencies and you are already on the path as a recovering people pleaser so you can understand the difference between internal validation and external validation. Maybe this is new knowledge to you, maybe you are sitting there going “what the heck is the difference between being internally validated versus externally validated?”.
Well, if we break it down it’s very clear. External validation is you being validated by something outside of you. Internal validation is you being validated by something within you. The people pleasing tendencies that you carry is a pattern that is built into your subconscious, so again you are not consciously aware of this pattern until you are aware of it. P.s. I am trying to help you become aware of it right now. This is a subconscious pattern that happens based on your fear.
Your fear based perception is pressuring you to seek external validation. That fear based perception can come from a lot of different things, but ultimately it is the fear that you are not enough, the fear that you are not worthy. So you are seeking external validation, you are desiring somebody else to tell you that you are worthy, that you are enough. How do you get that person to tell you that you are enough and that you are worthy? Well, you please them. In your habits and behaviors you do everything in your power to please that person, to make sure they are happy, to make sure they are successful. Because when you help them to succeed they give you that external validation reminding you that you are worthy.
This is a very unhealthy cycle because you are placing your worthiness on someone else’s perception of you. Now in my experience, I went deep into my desire for external validation without realizing it was happening. I can see what happened now that I am outside of this, but in the moment I was not aware of what was happening.
I had a working relationship many moons ago, many many many moons ago. My working relationship with my bosses bled into my personal relationship with them. At that time in my life I really allowed my work to become my life and I didn’t really have a personal life outside of work. This meant that I grew pretty strong personal relationships with my bosses. I grew those personal relationships because I wanted them to see me in a certain way. I put them on a pedestal and I thought they were amazing, and wonderful, and extraordinary human beings. I wanted them to tell me that I was great. I wanted them to tell me that I did a good job. I wanted them to thank me for the work I did. My personal relationship grew, or my desire for a personal relationship grew, because I thought they were cool and I wanted them to think I was cool.
I became caught in a pattern of prioritizing their needs and emotions because that’s the relationship that I had created. I was the “yes” woman, I would say yes to every job or task they put on my plate. When we were hanging out outside of work and work came up in the conversation I wanted to make sure they were happy and I wanted to make sure that they thought I was doing a good job.
Slowly over the years I morphed, and who I was as a person shifted, because I was doing everything in my power to try and get them to see me as “cool”. I wanted to do the things that they did, I wanted to move through the world as the way they moved through the world, because then they would accept me. This pattern of needing their acceptance and validation, it just gets stronger and stronger over time because we wrap ourselves up in it even more. Every single time they would say thank you, every single time they make a nice comment to who you are or who you are showing yourself in the world, that need for external validation becomes even stronger because you receive it. You get a hit of “oh yes, they think I’m great” now you need to do even more for them to think you are great again. It perpetuates it.
Eventually over time, in this working relationship that became personal, I wasn’t able to solve their issues. I was working so hard to solve all their problems, work related or personal related. A challenge would pop up and I would jump right in and try to fix it and offer guidance and assistance, because that is who I am as a compassionate human being and as an empath. This is who I am naturally, I want to help people. But in this instance as a people pleaser I was helping them to receive that external validation to feel like I am worthy and to feel like I am enough. I got to the point where I couldn’t solve the issues because their issues went much deeper than being something I could help with. Their issues weren’t just a surface level, let me solve this problem, let me solve this challenge that has popped up. Their issues were way deeper than that and it wasn’t my job. Actually, it wasn’t what I was getting paid for, wasn’t my job, but also it just wasn’t my job as a human being and we will get into that in a minute.
When I couldn’t solve the issues I became burnt out and I had a breakdown. I have talked many times about my mental and emotional breakdown and how it was a catalyst to my spiritual awakening. In this specific moment I can now see that I became burnt out because I was so tied to needing their external validation and I caught myself in a moment where no matter the issue they were experiencing, that kept persisting, I could not solve it. I, as a people pleaser, would never reach satisfaction, I would never receive external validation for solving this specific problem because I couldn’t help them with it. It was a problem that was not mine to solve.
So, with my burn out and my breakdown, I had to walk away. That was the only option for me. This led to their perception of me collapsing because I was no longer choosing to be the saviour. I couldn’t be the saviour anymore. I burnt bridges because I had to. I burnt bridges because the person who I had become in their eyes was not the person who I truly was and the person I had become in my eyes was not a person that I liked.
This brings me to the second part of internal validation versus external validation. I was talking about how you have a fear based perception, my fear based perception or the fear I experienced was the fear of judgment.
I carried such a fear of judgment that everything within my body said, “well I need them to validate me. I need them to give me that validation. I need them to not judge me. So who can I be so they don’t judge me. How can I behave so they don’t judge me? How can I act so they don’t judge me? How can I please them so they don’t judge me?” This is all subconscious. I wasn’t aware that I was thinking this way. You cannot be consciously aware of your subconscious until you are. Once you become aware of it then you can’t go back.
After my burn out and breakdown I embarked on my healing journey. This is when I uncovered my fear of judgement, the fear of judgment that I experienced. I’m trying to not identify with my fear anymore. I did a teaching in my membership, The Soul Care Space, about how to unburden yourself from fear, and one of the lessons that came through was about not identifying with fear. So it’s funny I keep saying “my fear, my fear, my fear” because that is me identifying with it, when ultimately fear is just an emotion, it’s not something we can identify with. So I’m trying. I’m learning.
In this fear of judgment that I have, in that experience, I just ended up judging myself. I didn’t like who I had become. I realized in my journey of understanding internal validation versus external validation, if I am desiring someone else’s validation it’s because I don’t believe in myself. If I’m not believing in myself it’s because I am judging myself so I want somebody else to validate me, I want somebody else to tell me that I am worthy. I want somebody else to tell me that I am more than enough because I am over here just judging myself. Yet the fear I experience is of judgment.
So, I didn’t like who I had become. Once I experienced the burn out and breakdown I was able to recognize, “oh hot damn, I don’t like who I am and I don’t like the path that I am moving down, and I need to change”. I knew that that wasn’t possible in that environment and I didn’t want to try.
I think there are times in our lives when we can change and shift in a relationship, we can change and shift in an environment that broke us. I believe there is, it really depends on who is surrounding you, it depends on willpower and determination and it depends on your situation itself and the environment you are in. For myself, I was in a toxic environment, hence why I couldn’t solve their issues because their issues went much deeper than what I could help with because it was toxic, extremely toxic. So, I needed to walk away. There are times where we do need to leave the environment, the job or the relationship. Especially when we are looking at the job, the environment or the relationship and we recognize this is toxic, this is unhealthy.
Sometimes we walk away, we work on ourselves, we heal ourselves, we shift how we perceive ourselves, and we shift how we show up in the world. Then those people come back to us and those environments come back to us and we are able to experience them in a much healthier way. And sometimes they don’t and that’s okay. Every relationship is for a season, a reason or a lifetime.
That is the first lesson I had to learn in order to become a healthy, aligned and peaceful empath, internal validation versus external validation. I had to learn how to like myself and that’s the journey I went on after I left that job because I didn’t like who I had become.
This brings me to the next lesson I had to learn which is…
TAKING CARE OF YOUR EMOTIONAL WELL-BEING IS NOT MY JOB
This is a big one for people pleasers. My emotions are mine and your emotions are yours. I can’t make you feel something. I can trigger an emotion within you, but the emotion is yours, that’s your emotion, you’re experiencing it, I’m not experiencing it. Just how you can’t make me feel an emotion, if you were to say something that triggered anger you didn’t make me angry, your actions triggered anger within me.
Learning, as a people pleaser, as a recovering people pleaser, that it’s actually not my job to take care of someone else’s emotional well-being was huge. Because I had spent a lifetime, quite literally, I had spent my entire lifetime trying to take care of everyone else’s emotional well-being. If someone was sad, what could I do to make them happy? If someone was overwhelmed, what could I do to shift that for them?
Early on in my mentoring work, when I started my business as a spiritual mentor, I had worked with a few different clients and they were really great experiences. Then I began working with this one client, and it still was a really great experience, she was a beautiful woman with a beautiful soul, a lot of learning and healing to be done, and I learnt a lot through my working relationship with her. How I learned was I started to become drained. There is a pattern, whenever our energy starts to drain us and we start to feel exhausted, that is a trigger, there is something for us to learn and shift.
I started to become drained because I was circling around “how can I ensure she reaches the peace she desires? How can I make sure she gets there?”. Oftentimes this is where I really struggled, I would share the teaching or lesson or channeled message that was coming through in our session, I would share it and she would question it. It wouldn’t hit home for her, or she had some sort of resistance around it, or some beliefs built up that resisted the message. We would leave the call, I would be walking and moving throughout my day, or over the next week and my mind would keep focusing on “how can I word this differently? What other ways can I say it to her?”. I became so enveloped in her healing journey because I was so tied to her emotional well-being. I had reached peace in my life, so I wanted to be able to give her the answers so she could reach it. I spent so many hours caught up in how I could deliver the right message so she would finally get it and be able to make the changes.
Eventually we realized that we needed to part ways and I know I planted a lot of seeds within her and I know she’s been able to make a lot of shifts in her life because of the work we did together over those 3 months. Yet those 3 months drained me more than I’d ever experienced in being a spiritual mentor. They drained me and I could barely show up for other clients because I was so caught up in her emotional well-being.
It’s not my job to take care of somebody else’s emotional well-being because I can’t feel the emotions for them, I can only provide the tools and practices for somebody else to make the changes. I started to realize, there is this beautiful saying or perspective to hold as an empath, in order for you to be an empowered empath, if somebody else is sharing what’s weighing on them, you cannot uplift that other person if you allow their emotions to drain you. If your best friend comes to you and they start sharing this heavy thing they are experiencing, and you start to feel drained, you get down on their level, because you want to take care of their emotional well-being and you tune into the emotion that they are experiencing. If you start to feel that same emotion that they are experiencing you have brought yourself down to their level and now you can’t uplift them because you are drained emotionally and energetically.
It’s not your job to take care of somebody else’s emotional well-being. Unfortunately, everyone has to feel and express their own emotions, you cannot take those emotions away from them, you can't feel those emotions for them, they have to feel them. They have to process them.
Now my client work is so much more empowering because I have let go of the control I held onto. I can see my clients making real changes in their life because I guided them to the process that they can carry into their own lives. It’s not my job to take care of their emotional well-being, it’s not my job to feel their emotions for them. What I can do is provide a safe and sacred and supportive place for them to feel their emotions. I can allow them to feel safe in their vulnerabilities, or I can help them to feel safe in their vulnerabilities. I can help them to feel supported when they are feeling heavy. I can be a compassionate shoulder to lean on and I can be an open ear to listen.
Oftentimes this is all people really want, is to feel heard, to feel seen and to feel understood. When you can create a safe and sacred space for people to feel heard, seen and understood you are allowing them the space to move through their own emotions, so they can then guide themselves to peace. This is something I do in my mentoring work, in the courses I create, in my membership program, ultimately I want to help you create a peaceful life. I can’t create the peaceful life for you, but what I can do is help you to move through your emotions, I can guide you through them. I can support you through those emotions, I can guide you through the feeling process and I can teach you different tools and practices to help guide you back to peace. That is me living as a healthy, aligned and peaceful empath, sharing the wisdom I have gained.
But as a people pleaser I believed it was my job to take care of somebody else’s emotional well-being and then when they didn’t reach happiness I believed I had failed. I can’t feel someone’s emotions for them. Trust me, I’ve got my own emotions to feel. I am a very sensitive soul, I am a highly sensitive, highly empathic being. So I not only feel your emotions, I feel my emotions, and it’s heavy and overwhelming, and I’ve learned how to move through them with more grace and ease. I’ve learned how to create more peace in my life because I have healthy, supportive practices and tools to move through my emotions. I experience peace and joy and fulfillment so much more often now because I’m not numbing myself from the fear, the stress, the overwhelm or the frustration. When those feelings crop up I move through them, I feel them, I uncover the lesson or the teaching or the message. Then I apply whatever lesson that is to my life and I guide myself to fulfillment again.
I want to remind you that as you are learning to shift from those people pleasing tendencies into being an empath, it is not your job to take care of somebody else’s emotional well-being, it is your job to take care of your emotional well-being.
This brings us to the third lesson that I had to learn.
TUNING MY ENERGETIC FREQUENCY RATHER THAN TUNING YOUR PERCEPTION OF ME
For a long time I was so focused on how could I be who you need me to be. I already mentioned this in internal validation versus external validation. I remember when I was living with my cousins I would get so caught up in what I thought their perception of me was. I love my cousins and I have such a great relationship with them and I experienced the fear of judgment so badly that I would catch myself in moments in my mind circling. “What if they come home and they say this, what if they are looking at me and they think this”... That cycle of thoughts that would spin and spin and spin.
I became so focused on trying to tune their perception of me, how can I be who they need me to be. Deep in the good girl, good boy persona, is a subconscious pattern dedicated to prioritizing everyone else’s needs because it will give you the key to your worthiness. Who do they need me to be? This is closely tied to external validation, you are wanting their validation because you will then be worthy. Who do they need me to be?
I dismantled this pattern because it was coming from an unhealthy and misaligned place. I recognized that I was just judging myself. When I was looking, when I was trying to look, through my cousins eyes at me, I was trying to perceive who I thought they perceived me as. Really I was just looking through a bunch of different lenses judging myself. I said “oh what if they think I did this wrong?” I’m just judging myself through the lens of what I think they are looking at me from. When in reality my cousins love me, they aren’t judging me and if they are, it's silly little judgments that don’t really matter.
So, I came to this realization that I need to tune my energetic frequency rather than tuning somebody else’s perception of me. Rather than being focused on how can I tune their perception of me I needed to focus on how I can tune my own energetic frequency. Tuning is such a funny thing, you think of an old radio and having to move that tiny little dial to tune into the right radio station. Maybe I’m showing my age there, but that is tuning.
Tuning your energetic frequency is acknowledging “how am I currently feeling and do I like this? Do I like the way that I feel? No, okay how can I move the dial a little bit to tune into a frequency that feels a little better.” The question I ask myself is “how can I be who I want to be?”. No judgment, no blame, no shame. How can I be who I want to be? This is living from an aligned and peaceful state. This is where I focus on the daily practices of tuning my energetic frequency. Who do I want to be? That is what we have to figure out first, who do I want to be? Now, how can I be that version of me right now?
I’m the type of person who is kind and compassionate to others, because it feels good for me to share my heart. Not from the rooted belief that my worthiness is dependent on how others view me. Instead when I am in the act of sharing my compassionate, kind heart, I feel good. So I am doing it from a good feeling place, not from hoping the end result is that someone tells me I am worthy. Focusing on my energy on a daily basis and how I choose to show up in the world puts me back in my own power and it allows me to live authentically. Right, come back into yourself. People pleasing is all about focusing on everyone else, putting everyone else first, putting their needs first, putting their emotions first. You are draining yourself and it’s unhealthy. Guess what, when you live as an empowered empath, you can still be compassionate, you can still be kind and you can do it from a place where you feel fulfilled, peaceful and empowered.
When you focus back on your energy on a daily basis you get to choose how you show up in the world, and this is you living authentically. This means on the days where I feel more heavy or energetically drained, I take care of myself rather than continuing to show up for others. Now of course every day I take care of myself, because that is how I tune my energetic frequency, but I’m specifically saying the days I feel more heavy or energetically drained I will prioritize myself more.
Here is a great example, in the past I had a friend who was going through a really really hard time. Something traumatic and chaotic occurred on her path that was completely unexpected and it shifted everything for her. I wanted to be there for her to support her, but I cannot take care of her emotional state, that is her job. I had a long phone call with her, I was supporting her, I held space for her, I reminded her to breathe, and I reminded her that she is beautiful and divine. I reminded her that this thing happening doesn’t define her, it has nothing to do with who she is, it is just a shitty thing that is happening and she has to choose to move forward. As the week progressed, after this major thing happened, I noticed one day I was feeling tired and drained. I had to set boundaries around my time and energy. I turned the do not disturb on on my phone and I wasn’t there to answer every text immediately and I wasn’t there to answer every call immediately, and guess what, it wasn’t the end of the world. When I did have time to talk to her, I told her I was there for her, I told her I was feeling more tired and I needed to take time for myself and she understood because she knows that I love her and she knew that I still loved her.
This is what happens when you live from an empowered state as an empath, you create relationships that have a beautiful balance of give and receive. She has been there for me many times and I have been there for her many times. I am not the only person in her life, I made sure she has other friends and other support systems. I made sure after I told her that specific day that I couldn’t talk until after a certain time, she ended up texting me back saying she had booked an emergency session with her therapist.
Our loved ones will make it through, they will figure it out and we will be there to support them as much as we can; but we can’t do that if we are draining ourselves. It’s really important to tune your energetic frequency rather than tuning someone else’s perception of you because you actually have control over your energetic frequency, you do not have control over somebody else’s perception of you. If they end up perceiving you in a bad light, you come back to yourself and you ask yourself “how can I be who I want to be?” If you are living from a state of being proud of who you are, I’m not saying you don’t make mistakes, we are all human, we make mistakes. But you are proud of the intention you are living from and you like who you are becoming, then nothing else matters. You will start to attract more people who respect you, who respect your energy and who have a healthy perception of you.
Those are three of the lessons that I have had to learn when it comes to being a people pleaser versus being an empath: internal validation versus external validation; taking care of your emotions is not my job; and tuning my energetic frequency rather than tuning someone else’s perception of me.
SELF REFLECTION CREATES SOUL CONNECTION
As always, I want to come back to you because that is why I am here. I want you to take this wisdom and apply it to your own life, and how do you do that? Well, self reflection creates soul connection. When you take the time to actually reflect on who you are, who you are becoming or how you’ve previously lived versus how you want to live moving forward, this is where you create real change. This is where you start to understand yourself better and that is where you start to believe in your own worthiness and you start to internally validate yourself rather than needing somebody else’s external validation.
Self reflection is a powerful tool that helps you to better understand yourself and strengthen your connection with the Universe. Which is where you build trust and find a way to surrender more easily. This is how you live with more peace. Ignoring the shadows, denying the fear, avoiding the emotions is not how you experience connection and belonging and feeling like you are fulfilled. We have to do this inner work.
Use these journal prompts to help guide you in shifting from a people pleaser to an empowered empath. I have four journal prompts here for you, I want you to write them down and I want you to take some time to reflect on them. I always say this, make sure you actually write down your answers because just filtering through your mind doesn't solidify the reflection as much as it can when you write it down. I used to be a journaler who had a diary and would journal with pen to paper, but now I journal on my laptop because it’s a lot faster. So you can type it out or write it out, whatever feels best for you.
1 - When you are feeling tired or drained, what can you do to care for yourself?
2 - What relationships in your life are there an imbalance in give/receive and what needs to shift?
This is a really important question and it’s probably going to call out some of your relationships. But that’s good because we need to.
3 - Why are you prioritizing someone else’s emotions over your own?
4 - What shifts or changes do you want to make to let go of your people pleasing tendencies?
There is no right or wrong answer to any of these, it’s simply about getting to know yourself a little deeper. I really hope today’s podcast was able to shine light on a very important topic as an empath and a people pleaser. I hope you are able to see things a little more clearly in your life about some shifts you are wanting to make, maybe some lessons you are already learning or maybe some ways you can start to guide yourself into feeling like a more empowered empath.
GOODBYE
As we close things out I want you to remember, your life is happening right now. There is not some future moment you need to rush forward to. Be here, take a deep breath, know that you are meant to be in this moment.
Life will always bring more lessons.
Your soul will always guide you to more healing.
Your mind will always require support to see from a bigger perspective.
You will always desire to be seen, heard and understood.
Be here now for yourself. In time you will feel the call to share more light and compassion with the world.
I’m Sydney, signing off and saying thank you, thank you, thank you.
Until next time, sending love & light on your spiritual journey,
Sydney Smith
Spiritual Mentor
Founder of Adventuring with Poseidon Wellness
